Excellent summaries of important concepts

1. Nassim Taleb’s Anti-fragility:

How to Avoid Societal Collapse

Some quick & dirty solutions from Nassim Nicholas Taleb.

2. Tim Gallwey’s The Inner Game of skill acquisition:

a nice collection of positive self-talk

Take action

Time to deliver!

Just do it!

Pull the trigger.

Face the fear and do it anyway.

Participate! Have a go!

I am what I do.

Walk the talk.

Quit talking and start doing.

Courage

Face the fear and do it anyway. (Susan Jeffers)

I can handle it. (Susan Jeffers)

Why not?

Finish what I started.

I won’t always feel this bad.

This too shall pass. (Persian proverb)

Shhhh! Not helpful ( to my inner doomsday voice)

Life is an adventure.

Commit to learning

I can do this.

I am growing.

I can change.

I am growing my brain.

Concentration

Shhhh!  (to my internal chatterbox)

Focus like a laser.

Pay attention. This is important.

Coping with failure

Next time.

I’m not there yet.

What can I learn from this?

What to do next time.

What else can I try?

Try again.

Move on!

The past is dust.

I tried my hardest.

It’s OK to fail.

All life is an experiment. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

I’m a beginner. I’m supposed to make mistakes.

Life’s uncertain. I can’t predict what will work.

I stuffed up. It’s OK. I’m not supposed to be perfect.

PERMA for remembering the five components of well-being

P = positive affect ( feeling happy)

E = engagement, flow, absorption in whatever you’re doing

R = relationships, positive ones

M = meaning in your life

A = accomplishment, pursuing success and mastery just because it’s satisfying

(from Flourish by Martin Seligman, p 16)

How to use PERMA?

  1. Add PERMA to your daily checklist of things to do and review. At the end of the day, think about how good the day was in terms of your sense of happiness, engagement, positive social experiences, meaning and accomplishment.
  2. Use PERMA to help you prioritize your activities. We can’t do everything we want to do, but we can choose to do the important things.

clever expressions

  1. “Going along to get along”: non-assertively saying “yes” when you’d  rather say “no” to someone’s request to avoid disappointing them. (Dr. Bill Knaus)
  2. “Disagreeing without being disagreeable”: Disagreeing with someone without causing offense.

Healthy self-talk

  1. When preparing to take on a risky challenge say:

    “I would like to do well, but too bad if I don’t.”

    (Albert Ellis, 2004)


How can I control my emotions rather than have them control me?

Answer: Watch this old-time cartoon video for some pointers!

Controlling Your Emotions Before They Control You

STAR for thinking before acting and reveiwing after acting

S = Stop
T = Think
A = Act
R = Review

STAR is a handy acronym that reminds us to use that space that sits between the stimulus coming in and our response going out: R.

STAR wants us to make that space bigger than we usually do and also to spend some time thinking about how our action turned out.

STAR wants us to:

  • “do consequences”
  • “engage the brain before putting our mouth into gear”
  • “look before we leap”
  • “measure twice, cut once”

STAR tells us that “an impulsive me is an ineffective me”.

Here are some wise words from The Inner Brat Newsletter

“Engage brain before putting mouth into gear.”

I couldn’t find the origin of this saying, but it ranks in my top ten instructions for successful living. It’s just another way of saying, “Think before you speak,” but it sounds much more important.

When your mouth gets moving before your brain is engaged, your inner brat is unfettered. There is no filter to prevent you from saying things you might later regret.

Here are some risks of speaking without thinking:

• You might hurt/alarm/offend others, intentionally or not

• You might regret betraying secrets and confidences

• You might lose the advantage while negotiating

• You might lose respect from others

• Your reputation might suffer long-term damage

• You might lose your chance for a date, for a job or for a promotion

• You might get into trouble with the law

• You can’t take back what you said

What are the best posts from the best bloggers?

 

Answer: That’s too hard to answer, but here are some top posts from some top bloggers:

 

20 top posts by Leo Babauta, creator of zenhabits

breathe

be still

a brief guide to life

the best goal is no goal

the lost art of solitude

the elements of living lightly

the zen of doing

The Ultimate How to Get Lean Guide

simplify, and savor life

How Not to Hurry

Email Sanity: How to Clear Your Inbox When You’re Drowning

the barefoot philosophy

The No. 1 Habit of Highly Creative People

The Little But Really Useful Guide to Creativity

The Simple, Ridiculously Useful Guide to Earning a Living from Your Passion

10 Benefits of Rising Early, and How to Do It

20 Things I Wish I Had Known When Starting Out in Life

Simple Living Manifesto: 72 Ideas to Simplify Your Life

A Guide to Creating a Minimalist Home

Get Off Your Butt: 16 Ways to Get Motivated When You’re in a Slump

 

Five top posts by Tim Ferriss, author of 4-hour workweek and 4-hour body

Real Mind Control: The 21-Day No-Complaint Experiment

The Top 5 Reasons to Be a Jack of All Trades

How to Resurrect Your High School Spanish… or Any Language (Plus: Be on the CBS Early Show!)

How Much Does Your Commute Really Cost You? Calculate It… Then Kill It?

Looking to the Dietary Gods: Eating Well According to the Ancients

 

Seven  top posts by Gretchin Rubin, creator of The Happiness Project

Secrets of adulthood

Recommended happiness reading

The movie “Twilight” inspires me to do a better job with some of my resolutions.

Six tips for good deeds that take less than five minutes

Imitate a spiritual master – who is yours?

Five happiness boosters that actually do more harm than good

Do something every day

30 top posts by Steve Pavlina, creator of the website Personal Development for Smart People

10 Reasons You Should Never Get a Job

How to Discover Your Life Purpose in About 20 Minutes

Self-Discipline

How to Make Money From Your Blog

How to Decide When to End a Long-term Relationship

How to Become an Early Riser

How to Cook Brown Rice

10 Tips for College Students

The Law of Attraction

Living Paycheck to Paycheck

How to Get Up Right Away When Your Alarm Goes Off

Remove a Limiting Belief in About 20 Minutes

10 Tips for a Better Cover Letter

33 Rules to Boost Your Productivity

Waking Up

How to Be a Man

10 Reasons You Should Never Have a Religion

How to Make Lots of Money During a Recession

How to Defeat Kolrami

Cause-Effect vs. Intention-Manifestation

How to Squash Negative Thought Patterns

Levels of Consciousness

How to Manifest Money

Self-Discipline: Acceptance

How to Stop Complaining

Understanding Family Relationship Problems

How to Build a High-Traffic Web Site (or Blog)

The Meaning of Life: Intro

30 Days to Success

Hard Work

Lists of behaviour-change stuff to memorize

This is a work in progress!!

I’m typing this from memory. I still have to organise the points  under logical headings. I’ve left lots of points out- -and I still have lots more topics to cover.

Here is a simple idea:  if I memorise what I want to do,  I’m more likely to do it.

If I can’t remember something, I definitely can’t do it. 

Writing  everything down as checklists  and checking those checklists every now and then helps, but it’s heaps better if I just know “deeply”  all the things I want to do.

It’s hard memorising long lists.  Of course, there’s a whole body of research behind how to memorising lots of information. I should look that information up and memorise the key steps!!!

One possible  spin-off of all this list -remembering I do is my working memory may be growing! It sure does feel like something is  growing  inside my brain because trying to remember all this stuff hurts so much!

Foods to eat often ( from Steve Pratt’s SuperFoods book)

Protein

  1. wild salmon (and other fish)
  2. turkey breast (and chicken breast)
  3. walnuts  (and all nuts and seeds)
  4. soy
  5. beans ( and all legumes)
  6. yogurt

Fruit

  1. blueberries ( and all berries)
  2. oranges ( and other citrus)
  3. apples
  4. kiwi fruit
  5. pomegranate
  6. dried fruit from list above (plus other dried fruit)

 

Vegetables

  1. pumpkin  (and sweet potato and carrot)
  2. spinach ( and other green leaves)
  3. tomatoes
  4. broccoli ( and cauliflower, cabbage, brussel sprouts)
  5. onions
  6. garlic
  7.  avocado

Other foods

  1. green tea ( and black tea)
  2. honey
  3. olive oil
  4. 70% dark chocolate
  5. oats ( and other whole grain cereals)
  6. cinnamon ( and other spices and herbs)

 

Supplements

  1. fish oil
  2. psyllium
  3. sunlight
  4. turmeric + black pepper
  5. caffeine
  6. other foods with special qualities
  7. grapefruit
  8. celery, rosemary, capsicum ( and other lutetium?-rich foods)
  9. apple cider vinegar

 

Important numbers to remember

  1. waist circumference < 80 cm for women; < 95 cm for non-Asian men
  2. < x bpm resting heart rate for women; < x bpm for men
  3. walk 10000 steps a day
  4. increase heart rate  up by %  during interval training
  5. walk up three flights of steps comfortably

Types of exercise

  1. weight-bearing
  2.  cardio — regular and interval
  3. stretching

Concentration routine

  1. Take caffeine.
  2. Visualise yourself doing all these  right things while working.
  3. Tell yourself the task is important and meaningful.
  4. Tell yourself you  can concentrate well for along time.
  5. Put yourself in a sober, serious and calm mood
  6. Set a challenging but achievable  task goal – either a time or output goal or both
  7. Get yourself comfortable todo the task.
  8. Control interruptions.
  9. Pull your mind back to the task when it wanders.
  10. Go back to the task  if you catch yourself  doing something else.
  11. Make yourself to do it 5 more when you want to quit prematurely.
  12. Push yourself to do 10 more minutes once you’ve achieved your target time.

 

Things to improve cognitive function long term

  1. meditation
  2. play n-back game
  3. fixing the engative emotions of depression, anxiety, tension and anger
  4. taking fish oil
  5. eating turmeric and other anti-inflammatories
  6. eating anti-oxidants
  7. exercise
  8. doing  fast walking
  9. dancing
  10. socializing
  11. building up concentration muscle by making self practise concentrating for longer

Enhancing short-term cognitive performance

  1. getting enough sleep
  2. taking power naps
  3. taking caffeine
  4. fast walking
  5. exercise
  6. applying concentrate routine
  7. tipping self out of negative emotions
  8. doing stuff you enjoy and has meaning for you
  9. controlling interruptions

Faulty thinking traps to be on guard against

  1. recency effect
  2. primacy effect
  3.  beautiful is good effect
  4. sunk costs effect
  5. wisdom of hindsight effect
  6. exaggerating personal control effect
  7. exaggerating personal ability effect
  8.  selective bias effect
  9. people agree with me bias
  10. other people behave badly  becasue they’re character -flawed; I behave badly because of extenuating circumstances
  11. the victim deserved it
  12. the good old days were better than today
  13. over-generalisation bias – because I failed this time I will always fail
  14. magnification of bad  things and minimization of good things
  15. neagtive bias filter -focusing only on bad and not seeing teh good
  16. stereotyping – over-inclusion
  17. slippery slope – foreseeing  catastrophe leading from one bad thing
  18. wishful thinking
  19. head in sand avoidance tactic

 

Problem-solving strategies

  1. Spot underlying problem inside presenting problem
  2. Satisficing rather than maximizing situation
  3. Ready-fire-aim
  4. Hedge bets
  5. Try before buying
  6. Nibble your way in
  7. Go with  “sure-thing” solution and then build on it
  8. Sleep on it before deciding
  9. Ddecide by a deadline
  10. Have a Plan B ready to go if solution fails
  11. Undo the decision and try another
  12. Do anything rather than nothing at all
  13. Ask an expert
  14. Involve stakeholders in selecting the solution
  15. Give solution a fair trial
  16. Go for biggest bang for buck solution
  17. Go for solution that best feels like “you”
  18. Separate facts from assumptions from wishful thinking
  19. Dig deep –push for more solutions
  20. Do consequences: consider the worse-case scenario of  the solution failing
  21. Don’t let irrational fears stop you from selecting the best solution
  22. Gather more information to get fully informed
  23. Practise prudence: think before jumping in
  24. Quit when the solution is clearly not working
  25. Quit when the solution stops  working
  26. Find out solutions have worked for others
  27. Think aobut which solutions have worked for you in the past
  28. Assess your ability to handle the failure or nasty fallout of  the solution if it turns bad
  29. Phone a friend–seek others opinions (not necessarily experts)
  30. Go with the  “campaign” solution i.e.  try the multi-pronged solution
  31. Practise continuous improvement: review solution outcome and keep improving it
  32. Practise eqanimity rather than trying to solve something you can’t fix (focus your energy only on things you have control over)
  33. Be patient waiting for the best solution and waiting for results to come from that solution
  34. Monitor solution effectiveness
  35. Back evidence-based solutions: look for proof that the solution will probably work
  36. Watch out for faulty thinking biases corrupting your decision-making process

Things we shouldn’t ever say

“That’s not my problem!” when the consequences of not speaking up could be catastrophic.

“We are the way we are. It’s too hard to change.”