How can I get myself to do what I want to do?

Answer: Make vivid, concrete plans that specify when and where, how you’re going to do what you want to  do.

The power of making a vivid implementation plan has been confirmed over and over in research by Peter Gollwitzer and his colleagues since the 1990s. (Click here for links to all the research papers.)

Carol Dweck, in her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, sums up how to make a vivid, concrete intention plan:

What works is making a vivid, concrete plan: “Tomorrow during my break, I’ll get a cup of tea, close the door to my office, and call the graduate school.” Or, in another case,: “On Wednesday morning, right after I get up and brush my teeth, I’ll sit at my desk and start writng my report.” Or: “Tonight, right after the dinner dishes are done, I’ll sit down with my wife in the living room and have that discussion. I’ll say to her, ‘Dear, I’d like to talk about something that I think will make us happier.’ ”

Think of something you need to do, something you want to learn, or a problem you have to confront. What is it? Now make a concrete plan.

when will you follow thorugh on your plan? Where will you do it? How will you do it? Think about it in vivid detail.

These concrete plans–plans you can visualize–about when, where, and how you are going to do something lead to really high levels of follow-through, which, of course, ups the chances of success. (p 228)

How can I break a bad habit?

Answer: Practice vigilant monitoring, keeping your attention on your unwanted behavior to make sure you don’t slip.

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Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2010 Apr;36(4):499-511.

Can’t control yourself? Monitor those bad habits.

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Abstract

What strategies can people use to control unwanted habits? Past work has focused on controlling other kinds of automatic impulses, especially temptations. The nature of habit cuing calls for certain self-control strategies. Because the slow-to-change memory trace of habits is not amenable to change or reinterpretation, successful habit control involves inhibiting the unwanted response when activated in memory. In support, two episode-sampling diary studies demonstrated that bad habits, unlike responses to temptations, were controlled most effectively through spontaneous use of vigilant monitoring (thinking “don’t do it,” watching carefully for slipups). No other strategy was useful in controlling strong habits, despite that stimulus control was effective at inhibiting responses to temptations. A subsequent experiment showed that vigilant monitoring aids habit control, not by changing the strength of the habit memory trace but by heightening inhibitory, cognitive control processes. The implications of these findings for behavior change interventions are discussed.