How can I be more charismatic and charming?

Answer: Improve your ability to:

1. empathize
2. listen well
3. express enthusiasm
4. maintain good eye contact
5. display self-confidence
6. speak well 

This study found that charisma is made up of those 6 behaviours listed above.

And all those behaviours are learnable — and once learned, turn-on-able at will.

 So, to become more charismatic, here’s what  to do:

1. Identify the component sub-skills present  in each of those six behaviours ( for example, for listening, there’s  pay attention, don’t interrupt, listen to the feelings as well as the words, listen to the meaning behind the words, etc.).

2. Practise each sub-skill in isolation.

3. Practise the sub-skills of each behaviour  together in a safe envorinment e.g. on family and close friends and strangers who “don’t count”!

4. Put all 6 bahviours together and practise in a safe environment.

5. Practise the whole charisma package on real people in the real world !

Here are instructions on how to develop each of those behaviours:

empathy

listening

being enthusiastic

good eye contact

self-confidence

speaking well

(still to be written!!!!)