How can I positively influence someone?

Answer: Encourage them.

Up-and-coming tennis star Bernie Tomic explains how moved he was by Roger Federer’s words of encouragement:

BERNARD Tomic has vowed to follow Roger Federer’s advice this time and work harder on his tennis over the rest of the 2013 season. Tomic said the advice Federer gave him at the net 12 months ago, were spoken again last night.

“He said, ‘Keep going, you improved’.  Every time I played him, he mentions it, ‘Well done, Bernie, keep going, keep improving’, which is a good thing, hearing that from somebody like him,” said Tomic. . .

“I remember those words.

from Bernard Tomic vows to heed Roger Federer’s advice

How can I improve my eye contact skill?

Answer: Read this excellent article by Michael Ellsberg, author of the book: The Power of Eye Contact: Your Secret for Success in Business, Love, and Life

How It Works: Clinton’s “Reality Distortion Field” Charisma

Be sure you watch the Bill Clinton/George Bush video, first with the sound turned off, and then on.

Then watch more Bill Clinton videos for more charisma tuition!

And read these testimonials:

What is Bill Clinton like in person?

How can I make my ideas stick?

Answer:  Follow the 6 principles set out in Dan and Chip Heath’s book Made to Stick:

Make your idea:

  1. simple
  2. surprising
  3. concrete
  4. credible
  5. emotional
  6. told as a story

Here are some good short videos by Chip and Dan Heath:

How to present a scientific paper at a conference

How to present a paper at an academic conference: very practical and entertaining

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More good ideas:

How can I learn to be funny?

Answer: Study how amusing people get others to laugh and try practicing what they do.

Here are three speakers who deliver their important message in a very amusing way.

How can I write well?

Answer: Follow these famous witty rules of William Safire:

William Safire’s Rules for Writers:

  • Remember to never split an infinitive.
  • The passive voice should never be used.
  • Do not put statements in the negative form.
  • Verbs have to agree with their subjects.
  • Proofread carefully to see if you words out.
  • If you reread your work, you can find on rereading a great deal of repetition can be by rereading and editing.
  • A writer must not shift your point of view.
  • And don’t start a sentence with a conjunction. (Remember, too, a preposition is a terrible word to end a sentence with.)
  • Don’t overuse exclamation marks!!
  • Place pronouns as close as possible, especially in long sentences, as of 10 or more words, to their antecedents.
  • Writing carefully, dangling participles must be avoided.
  • If any word is improper at the end of a sentence, a linking verb is.
  • Take the bull by the hand and avoid mixing metaphors.
  • Avoid trendy locutions that sound flaky.
  • Everyone should be careful to use a singular pronoun with singular nouns in their writing.
  • Always pick on the correct idiom.
  • The adverb always follows the verb.
  • Last but not least, avoid cliches like the plague; seek viable alternatives.

Written by William Safire  in his “On Language” column in the New York Times on 4 November 1979

Here are some more famous rules writing rules:


George Orwell’s 6 Rules for Writing Well:

1. Never use a metaphor, simile, or other figure of speech which you are used to seeing in print.

2. Never use a long word where a short one will do.

3. If it is possible to cut a word out, always cut it out.

4. Never use the passive where you can use the active.

5. Never use a foreign phrase, a scientific word, or a jargon word if you can think of an everyday English equivalent.

6. Break any of these rules sooner than say anything outright barbarous.

from George Orwell: Politics and the English Language

How can I explain difficult concepts better?

Answer: Use analogies.

Richard Feynman, Nobel prize-winner and founder of Quantum Mechanics and explainer extraordinaire, used analogies all the time. He is famous for his brilliant analogies. If they’re good enough for him to use, they should be good enough for us to try to master!

Practical ideas on how to improve your analogy-generating skills:

  1. Copy Richard Feynman’s example  and automatically create analogies of what you’re reading as you go. Not only will this practice help you understand what your reading better, but you’ll be giving yourself lots of analogy-creating practice.
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  2. Watch Richard Feynman’s analogies in action. (Type in Feynman in the Practical Savvy search box to call up lots of Feynman videos). As you watch him, listen for the analogies.  Jot them down. Stop the video and try to recall the analogy word for word. Do whatever you can think of to deep-learn the Feynman analogy technique.
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  3. Keep a collection of fine analogies you stumble across in your general reading and listening. Revisit your list often just to remind you what a good analogy looks like. You can tell an analogy is good if it worked for you i.e. the analogy helped  you understand the tricky concept better.
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  4. Practice generating colorful and effective analogies. Generating analogies can be as much fun as punning. Here are some clever analogies/metaphors/similes:
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    • You can put lipstick on a pig, but it is still a pig. (to explain that making superficial or cosmetic changes won’t succeed in disguising the true nature of something.)
    • Friends are like melons; shall I tell you why? To find a good one, you must one hundred try. ~ Claude Mermet
    • Many people have a good aim in life, but for some reason they never pull the trigger.  ~ Unknown
    • Most people never run far enough on the first wind to find out they’ve got a second. Give your dreams all you’ve got, and you’ll be amazed at the energy that comes out of you. ~ William James
    • A conservative is a man with two perfectly good legs who, however, has never learned how to walk forward.  ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt
    • If you shoot for the stars and hit the moon, it’s OK. But you’ve got to shoot for something. A lot of people don’t even shoot. ~ Confucius
    • Cherish your vision and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements. ~ Napoleon Hill
    • Man’s main task in life is to give birth to himself, to become what he potentially is. ~ Erich Fromm
    • In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit. ~ Albert Schweitzer
    • When once you have tasted flight, you will forever walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward, for there you have been, and there you will always long to return. ~ Leonardo da Vinci
    • There is a magnet in your heart that will attract true friends. That magnet is unselfishness, thinking of others first. When you learn to live for others, they will live for you. ~ Paramahansa Yogananda
    • Do your own thinking independently. Be the chess player, not the chess piece. ~ Ralph Charell
    • The average man is a conformist, accepting miseries and disasters with the stoicism of a cow standing in the rain. ~ Colin Wilson
    • Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls atention to an unhealthy state of things. ~ Winston Churchill
    • Habits start out as cobwebs and grow to be cables. ~ Spanish proverb
    • Vision is not enough. It must be combined with venture. It is not enough to stare up the steps; we must also step up the stairs. ~ Vaclac Havel
    • Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. ~ Buddha
    • Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared. ~ Sutta Nipata
    • To build a friendship is to build wealth. ~ Buddha
    • Forget about the fruit; nurture the root. ~ Unknown
    • If farming were to be organised like the stock market, a farmer would sell his farm in the morning when it was raining, only to buy it back in the afternoon when the sun came out. ~ John Maynard Keynes
    • Wars are won in the general’s tent. ~ Stephen Covey
    • Service is the rent we pay for the privilege of living on this earth. ~ N. Eldon Tanner
    • The person who gets the farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore. ~ Dale Carnegie
    • The worst bankrupt in the world is the man who has lost his enthusiasm. Let a man lose everything else in the world but his enthusiasm and he will come through again to success. ~ H.W. Arnold
    • To the man with a hammer, every problem tends to look pretty much like a nail. ~ Unknown
    • You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
      Love like you’ll never be hurt,
      Sing like there’s nobody listening,
      And live like it’s heaven on earth. ~ William W. Purkey
    • Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So. . .sail away from the safe harbor. Explore. Dream. Discover. ~ Mark Twain
    • Choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems. There are no problem-free candidates. ~ Daniel Wile

Here’s a great blog article by Lisa Jeffery that gives more practical tips on how to create analogies like Richard Feynman:

The Art of Explaining Things–Richard Feynman Style

How can I practice my listening skills?

Answer: Try these  activities.  They’re very challenging!


Activity 1: Identifying words through distracting background noise. This is a free Posit Science game and is very challenging.

http://www.positscience.com/games-teasers/mind-games/speech-in-noise/play


Activity 2: Listening for target words while trying to remember the story details.

n this short activity, you will listen to  someone read a short story very quickly. At the end, you will be asked to answer four questions about what you heard in the story. In addition, you are asked to raise your right arm whenever you hear teh word “right” and your left arm whenever you hear the word ‘left”.  I suggest you just raise your right and left index finger instead to make it a lot easier for yourself!

It’s a good exercise–I couldn’t do it first time through!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ogK2r5E0kw4&feature=related

How can I apply Cialdini’s six principles of influence in my everyday life?

Videos on Cialdini’s six principles of influence applied in everyday life:

How can I learn how to teach well?

Answer: Study this transcript of Richard Feynman’s lecture he gave in 1959 on the possibility of making things small.

Richard Feynman was an extraordinary teacher. If you want to get good, then study the techniques used by the masters.